JoAnn Carter: This wasn't a special "date" but rather something fun I did for my husband one Valentine's day... I snuck into his office at work after hours and plastered it with "I love you" notes, hearts, candies, and love little gifts. It not only made him smile, but I really enjoyed doing for him.
Very sweet, sounds like something I would have done. We have two Elaine’s among us as well. Elaine Cantrell, what was your favorite Valentine’s Day ever?
Elaine Cantrell: It happened not long after we got married. I was in a fever of impatience to get downtown, I can’t remember why, but my husband kept procrastinating. Finally, I got impatient so we left to do whatever it was. When we got back, I had a beautiful, huge pot of daffodils sitting on the porch. He had ordered them for me and wanted me to be there to get them. I felt so bad that I’d insisted on leaving, but I made it up to him by cooking him a lovely Valentine dinner.
How nice…glad you have a romantic hubby! Let’s turn to the topic of love. Grace, what does love mean to you?
Grace Greene: That is the exact question that Michael asks Beth in KINCAID'S HOPE. People see love in different ways and apply it differently. Love is that heady, heart-pumping feeling - the all-consuming emotional and physical sensation. Love is the comfort and camaraderie of friendship that trusts, forgives and accepts each other despite flaws. Love is what makes us want to rise about our flaws. Romantic love should be all of that. For some, love is an unsatisfying obligation - especially if the love is not returned. For others, love is terrifying. It is an exposure of their weakness and vulnerability as they open themselves to potential hurt. Or fear that they will fail to keep the commitment.
Great answer. Meg, if you had any advice to give to a young married couple on keeping love alive in their marriage, what would you say?
Meg Mims: LAUGH together. It’s far more important than anything else.
So very true. Laughter is the best medicine and can help you through many bumps along the way. Kendra, what does love mean to you?
Kendra James: Spiritual love of people, caring for all mankind, forgiveness, being nonjudgmental, accepting of differences, wanting to protect our loved ones. And one can’t discount lust and having a man in your life that as the saying goes: ‘Your eyes meet across a crowded room.”
Thank you for sharing, Kendra.
Elaine Cooper: I was working as a nurse and my husband had hired a trio of singers to come and sing two love songs to me at work. It was SO romantic. I felt SO loved.
Yes, that definitely qualifies as romantic. He’s a keeper! Lyn, what was your favorite Valentine’s Day ever?
Lyn Sofras: I think it has to be when I was just 17 and received 17 Valentine cards – for eight of which I never discovered the senders, but that made me feel very special. I did receive more cards than that when I was 20, but the majority of those came from one person! As nice as that was, it just wasn’t quite the same as having eight mystery admirers!
Eight mystery admirers…sounds like the makings of a great romance novel! Very mysterious, yet romantic at the same time. JoAnn, what was your favorite Valentine’s Day ever?
JoAnn Durgin: Hands down, the Valentine’s Day I got engaged on the beach in Monterey, CA. We’d had lunch at the famous Pebble Beach Country Club overlooking the bay with my boss and his wife (they were married there), and it was one of the most perfect days of my life.
Sounds like you had a very beautiful, memorable day and start to your lives together. JoAnn, I just have to ask when did you first know you were in love with your husband?
JoAnn Durgin: When I pushed him aside for a few months and knew he was leaving Dallas. In a string of events that only the Lord could orchestrate, He showed us we belonged together. It’s truly an amazing story, and one I need to fictionalize based on true events one of these days. It involves a job loss, a Caribbean cruise, a surgery, and a cross-country move.
Yes, I hope one day you do fictionalize your love story! Lyn, have you seen any Valentine’s Day movies…any favorites?
Lyn Sofras: Yes lots, but the film that really sticks in my mind isn’t a Valentine’s Day movie at all. It’s that scene towards the end of ‘Sleepless in Seattle’ where Annie sees the red heart on the side of the Empire State Building and knows it’s a sign to follow her own heart. And of course, when she gets there…well, everyone knows that movie!
Love that movie!
Elaine Cooper: I love the one where Christian Slater is the flower delivery guy on Valentine’s Day. I don’t remember the details but it was purely fun and cute!
Yes, very romantic. I saw that one…I think it was called Bed of Roses. Kendra, what’s the best lesson on love you’ve taught your children, or grandchildren or nieces and nephews?
Kendra James: I think respect, and acceptance of all people no matter their religion, race or sexual preference. I grew up in a family that liked discussions bordering on arguments. My dad would say something to set my mother off and sit back and enjoy the results. I hated the arguing and worked hard to keep that out of my life when I married and had children. I’m pleased to say that my children have grown to be kind, considerate, respectful adults. My granddaughter, at nine, is following that trend. She is a very sweet girl who can be counted on to draw out the loners wherever she goes.
Thank you for sharing that. I know the feeling and have been around family members in my own life who enjoy instigating fights—not very pleasant. It’s great that you took a different, more loving route with your family. Meg, do you enjoy watching chick flicks / romantic comedies and dramas?
Meg Mims: YES, I do – Leap Year, Hope Floats, While You Were Sleeping are a few modern examples, plus Bringing Up Baby, Arsenic & Old Lace, Father Goose, Operation Petticoat, The Philadelphia Story, Pat & Mike, Sabrina, even The African Queen. I’m a sucker for unusual matches – people you’d never think would get together!
Loved Leap Year and Hope Floats. Grace, what was the most valuable lesson you’ve learned in your lifetime about love?
Grace Greene: Love must come with a healthy ability to forgive. People are too imperfect to be able to have a lasting relationship without forgiveness.
How very true! If we aren’t able to forgive, we’re the only one living in a prison, not the person we won’t forgive. Elaine, as a child, did you give out Valentine’s to your friends?
Elaine Cantrell: I sure did. Our teachers had us bring shoe boxes to school, and we decorated them with paper doily’s, red construction paper hearts, cutouts from old valentines, and glitter. Then, on Valentine’s Day we put valentines for our classmates in the boxes.
Sounds like a very happy memory! JoAnn, what was the most selfless gift a person has ever given you because of love?
JoAnn Durgin: When Jim and I went to pick up my engagement ring at a store in California, we were overwhelmed in the most wonderful way imaginable. Let me tell you why. He’d picked out the ring in a store in California, but wanted me to go along in case I wanted something else. Of course, I wanted the one he picked out and wouldn’t think of looking at another ring. While at the store, when Jim pulled out his wallet to pay the balance, the clerk told him it was paid for – in full. He’d only told a couple of people where we got it, and we have our suspicions, but both of those individuals have now passed into glory. So, to this day, we don’t know the identity of our anonymous benefactor. It remains one of the most selfless gestures I’ve ever experienced in my life.
Getting goose bumps just hearing that story! How very special and such a wonderful reminder every time you look at your ring! Well, ladies, let’s take a little break and chat with all of our visitors.
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